Support For Children of Divorce

There is no more challenging issue for familiescost of child care.
than the impact of divorce on the children thatThirdly, educators should work with school
are involved. Although children may haveadministration to support the addition of social
experienced trauma as their parents grew apart,workers and school counselors who provide
the major impact of such a life-changing eventintervention and support for children experiencing
becomes even more pronounced when thethe family trauma of divorce. Since children the
separation is final.majority of each weekday at school, this is the
As that change unfolds, adults in the child's lifenatural location for behavioral health services and
become extremely important as sources ofrelated social supports.
support, love, understanding, and sharing. Of thoseMost importantly, educators need to set aside
adults, those most commonly associated withtime to listen to the newly single parent in
children on a routine basis are teachers andparent-teacher conferences and other meetings
teacher associates in the school setting. This shortwhere one-on-one contact with the parent is
article provides some guidance and information forpossible. That small amount of time gives the
educators working with children from divorcedparent a much needed opportunity to share
families.frustrations, ask questions about changes that
Educators should first be alert to changes thatmay be occurring in the child, and share
occur in children as the change at home unfolds.information with the teacher that may be helpful
With the advent of No Child Left Behind, manyin working with the child.
teachers have become focused on the testingSignificant changes in a child's life that are not
and benchmarking required by that program. Inaddressed in the early stages of the change can
the process, concerned educators have becomelead to life-long emotional and attachment
focused on the process and less focused on thechallenges for the child. Educators have the
day-to-day needs of the children in theiropportunity to provide support and intervention at
classrooms.that critical time when the newly single parent and
Secondly, educators should become familiar withthe children involved need those supports the
resources in the community that are available formost. Taking the time to recognize changes in the
children living in divorced homes. Those rangechild and provide openings for conversations with
from after-school programs for single parentsthe child and family is a key action step for
who are the sole wage earner to financialteachers in the 21st century.
resources that will provide assistance with the