| We desire to have a heart to heart talk with | | | | we do things together with each other's |
| each of you. We are just like you, we love living | | | | understanding and agreement eliminating, being |
| in the land of happiness. How do we get to the | | | | under stress, in conflict, and strife, which leads to |
| place where we are living what our heart's truly | | | | broken homes and unhappiness? |
| desire; life, health and happiness? | | | | Once again let's look at the words dominator |
| We are all in this together. What may be | | | | dominated and how they fit into our relationships. |
| happening in our homes, we are not aware of, | | | | Many of us are married, many are divorced, |
| which blemishes our credit? | | | | many have been or still are in a dominator |
| In our society, 70% of adults have poor credit. | | | | dominated relationship. |
| We have homes being broken, people filing | | | | What happened when we got married, were we |
| bankruptcy, foreclosures, and children are being | | | | taught one of us was to be the head of the |
| abused. Adults are living in disharmony and | | | | home and the other one was to be the |
| divorcing. What has created this kind of society? | | | | submissive one? How many of us were taught |
| What is the mindset of this kind of action or | | | | this is the way a family unit was to function for |
| reaction? How does dominator/dominated fit into | | | | there to be happiness? |
| this picture? | | | | What happened to this picture? Did it work? Or |
| When we have two or more sources of income, | | | | are our homes broken today because one was |
| and we are living in unhappiness and debt each | | | | the dominator and the other one was dominated? |
| day, is there a better way? Who is being | | | | What if we could have seen domination does not |
| dominated? Who is the dominator? When we look | | | | work and would have chosen a partnership over |
| to see who is in charge of the finances in our | | | | domination, what would life have looked like for |
| home, what do we find? Does it fall on the hands | | | | us? |
| of one to pay the bills, determine who gets paid, | | | | What if we could truly be equals, be side-by-side, |
| who gets left out, who gets paid late? When this | | | | be a pure partnership where we come to 100% |
| happens do we not see this has become a | | | | agreement or we didn't do something? |
| dominator/dominated situation? | | | | Now, we can hear some of you saying, oh, you |
| What if we, as adults in partnership, would | | | | don't know what I have to live with, this would |
| combine both incomes and create a mutually | | | | never work for us!! |
| agreed upon disbursement of money and organize | | | | We will agree, with the mind set we went into |
| our spending? | | | | our marriage with, this will not work. However, do |
| What if we truly created a partnership and an | | | | we want to keep that mindset? This is the |
| educational class for the children in how to | | | | mindset that we used and ended up with |
| manage, distribute, and be responsible for | | | | blemished credit, and our unhappiness, right? |
| spending, saving, giving, taking care of necessities? | | | | What if we each gave up the dominator |
| What if our children understood there is only so | | | | dominated relationship we have with each other, |
| much money coming into our home this month, | | | | and the one we have with our money distribution? |
| and we are not as the banks, we can't create | | | | What kind of mindset will it require of us to make |
| more than we have just by making an entry on | | | | this shift? What will our daily actions be with a |
| our ledger? | | | | partnership verses a dominator/dominated |
| What if we, as adults, assisted each other in being | | | | relationship? |
| responsible for our finances? What if we could sit | | | | One very good way to start a partnership is to |
| and communicate about our finances as partners | | | | share what we are discussing here with each |
| and not as dominator and dominated in our | | | | other and to learn together; not one learn and the |
| homes, what would the result be? | | | | other left behind. |
| The other day a friend said he wanted to go on a | | | | Let's all of us watch our language this week. Do |
| trip with a friend, however, his wife wasn't in | | | | we use a language of domination or of partnership |
| agreement because it would put too much stress | | | | when we are speaking with our dear loved ones? |
| on the distribution of the money at that time, so | | | | We encourage all of us to get our credit cleaned |
| he said "I didn't go". He was happy with it because | | | | up. Let's get started cleaning up our past |
| neither one of them do something without both | | | | mistakes, learn from them and create a new |
| agreeing on it. | | | | language, new thoughts, and move on to |
| Does this look like a dominator/ dominated picture | | | | happiness. Let's have a society that radiates |
| or is it a picture of a partnership where we come | | | | happiness, not stress or debt. Wouldn't we all |
| to agreement on how our home functions? Can | | | | choose happiness? |