| Without a doubt one of the biggest time and | | | | won't help you get any closer to what you |
| energy killers is anger. The more time you | | | | really do want to have, be or do. Use the |
| spend indulging in it, the less time you | | | | energy of your anger constructively by |
| have to live a happy, productive and | | | | channeling it into consistent action that |
| enjoyable life. | | | | gets you results that matter. |
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| There are two sides to anger. On one hand it | | | | Vent your anger with compassion. |
| can be the cause of tremendous pain and | | | | |
| suffering. It can turn into hatred or | | | | Give yourself permission to let it out, |
| violence in the blink of an eye and destroy | | | | safely. It's far better to let your anger |
| everything we love and care about, or it can | | | | out, than to bottle it up. If you're worried |
| turn inward and become bitterness and | | | | about what others might think, then go to a |
| despair. The later of course just eats us up | | | | secluded beach or park and stamp your feet, |
| from the inside until we break down or break | | | | or yell at the ocean. Nature won't care if |
| apart. | | | | you get upset with it. If you don't have the |
| | | | luxury of outdoor space, then scream into a |
| The master key to understanding how to | | | | pillow in your bedroom, with the door |
| prevent your life from being like a roller | | | | closed, or beat your pillow on the bed until |
| coaster ride of emotional upheaval that | | | | you feel exhausted. |
| anger inevitably brings is that when anyone | | | | |
| is angry what they are really saying is, 'I | | | | Do nothing with your anger for 24 hours. |
| don't feel loved and accepted'. | | | | |
| | | | If you're angry because of what someone has |
| By remembering this simple fact the next time | | | | said or done then try not to say anything |
| someone you know gets angry, you can turn it | | | | to them for 24 hours. By then you both will |
| around for them instantly. All you have to | | | | have calmed down enough to talk about things |
| do is help them to feel loved and accepted. | | | | calmly. |
| This might mean asking them questions to find | | | | |
| out what's upsetting them, or giving them | | | | Realize you don't have to get mad to take |
| space to vent their feelings, or even just | | | | action. |
| listening to what they are saying and not | | | | |
| giving an opinion unless it's asked for. | | | | Anger can be a very powerful motivator for |
| | | | taking action. The downside of this is that |
| Here's some more secret's to getting rid of | | | | if you're not angry, then you probably |
| anger: | | | | won't do anything. Get into the habit of |
| | | | taking action without being angry and you |
| Stop blaming others. | | | | will find that you won't need to rely on it |
| | | | so much to do the things you need to do. |
| It's not the governments fault that you don't | | | | |
| get paid enough; I t's not your partners | | | | Be honest with yourself. |
| fault that you don't feel loved and it's | | | | |
| certainly not anyone else's fault that you | | | | Pay attention to the warning signals your |
| don't always get what you want. | | | | body sends you before it's too late. When |
| | | | you feel angry recognize that it's OK to let |
| Don't accept sympathy. | | | | it go and relax. You don't have to stay |
| | | | agitated, frustrated or on edge for hours or |
| If you get loads of sympathy or attention | | | | days. |
| from others when you get angry, then tell | | | | |
| them to stop doing it. As long as they keep | | | | If you want to enjoy a stress free and |
| feeding your behaviour with sympathy, | | | | relaxed mind and body, then learn how to be |
| you'll continue to use anger as a way to | | | | more relaxed. It's really hard to get angry |
| get attention. | | | | and stay angry when your body is relaxed. |
| | | | The simplest way to do this is to slow down |
| No more excuses. | | | | your breathing and remember to breathe slow |
| | | | and deep whenever you can. Especially if you |
| Throwing a tantrum about the way things are | | | | are feeling emotional or uptight. |