| Without a doubt one of the biggest time and | | | | your anger constructively by channeling it into |
| energy killers is anger. The more time you spend | | | | consistent action that gets you results that |
| indulging in it, the less time you have to live a | | | | matter. |
| happy, productive and enjoyable life. | | | | Vent your anger with compassion. |
| There are two sides to anger. On one hand it can | | | | Give yourself permission to let it out, safely. It's |
| be the cause of tremendous pain and suffering. It | | | | far better to let your anger out, than to bottle it |
| can turn into hatred or violence in the blink of an | | | | up. If you're worried about what others might |
| eye and destroy everything we love and care | | | | think, then go to a secluded beach or park and |
| about, or it can turn inward and become | | | | stamp your feet, or yell at the ocean. Nature |
| bitterness and despair. The later of course just | | | | won't care if you get upset with it. If you don't |
| eats us up from the inside until we break down or | | | | have the luxury of outdoor space, then scream |
| break apart. | | | | into a pillow in your bedroom, with the door |
| The master key to understanding how to prevent | | | | closed, or beat your pillow on the bed until you |
| your life from being like a roller coaster ride of | | | | feel exhausted. |
| emotional upheaval that anger inevitably brings is | | | | Do nothing with your anger for 24 hours. |
| that when anyone is angry what they are really | | | | If you're angry because of what someone has |
| saying is, 'I don't feel loved and accepted'. | | | | said or done then try not to say anything to |
| By remembering this simple fact the next time | | | | them for 24 hours. By then you both will have |
| someone you know gets angry, you can turn it | | | | calmed down enough to talk about things calmly. |
| around for them instantly. All you have to do is | | | | Realize you don't have to get mad to take action. |
| help them to feel loved and accepted. This might | | | | Anger can be a very powerful motivator for |
| mean asking them questions to find out what's | | | | taking action. The downside of this is that if you're |
| upsetting them, or giving them space to vent | | | | not angry, then you probably won't do anything. |
| their feelings, or even just listening to what they | | | | Get into the habit of taking action without being |
| are saying and not giving an opinion unless it's | | | | angry and you will find that you won't need to |
| asked for. | | | | rely on it so much to do the things you need to |
| Here's some more secret's to getting rid of anger: | | | | do. |
| Stop blaming others. | | | | Be honest with yourself. |
| It's not the governments fault that you don't get | | | | Pay attention to the warning signals your body |
| paid enough; I t's not your partners fault that you | | | | sends you before it's too late. When you feel |
| don't feel loved and it's certainly not anyone else's | | | | angry recognize that it's OK to let it go and relax. |
| fault that you don't always get what you want. | | | | You don't have to stay agitated, frustrated or on |
| Don't accept sympathy. | | | | edge for hours or days. |
| If you get loads of sympathy or attention from | | | | If you want to enjoy a stress free and relaxed |
| others when you get angry, then tell them to | | | | mind and body, then learn how to be more |
| stop doing it. As long as they keep feeding your | | | | relaxed. It's really hard to get angry and stay |
| behaviour with sympathy, you'll continue to use | | | | angry when your body is relaxed. The simplest |
| anger as a way to get attention. | | | | way to do this is to slow down your breathing |
| No more excuses. | | | | and remember to breathe slow and deep |
| Throwing a tantrum about the way things are | | | | whenever you can. Especially if you are feeling |
| won't help you get any closer to what you really | | | | emotional or uptight. |
| do want to have, be or do. Use the energy of | | | | |