| Anger doesn't just affect mental health | | | | better twisting, find a thick towel and |
| - if can hurt you physically, socially, | | | | twist it with all your might. |
| financially, everything. What are some | | | | Again, screaming and shouting is |
| of the best resources out there on anger | | | | important. Don't hold it back for fear |
| management? This article gives some | | | | of scaring your neighbours. When I dealt |
| great tips and also lists out all the | | | | with my anger, I went for long drives |
| most effective resources available. | | | | alone at night, and screamed at the |
| Anger has a tremendous effect on your | | | | driving wheel. It worked wonders. |
| mental health. That much is obvious. It | | | | Fresh anger |
| distorts our thinking, drags us into | | | | The next kind of anger is "fresh" anger. |
| depression, keeps us constantly boiling | | | | While it is a very complex subject, here |
| inside and constantly keeps us in a | | | | is a bit of information that helps. |
| state of war. | | | | Fresh anger is triggered by thought. It |
| From there, it spreads out to disrupt | | | | could be a reaction to a current event |
| our outside life - our studies, work, | | | | or person, it could be anxiety over the |
| friends, romances, family relationships. | | | | future, or it could be a painful past |
| It even hurts us physically - many | | | | memory. These thoughts could come so |
| extremely dangerous conditions such as | | | | fast that you don't catch it, and so you |
| cancer and high blood pressure are | | | | go straight into an anger response. |
| linked to anger. | | | | These emotional responses then |
| First of all, we have to understand what | | | | strengthen and further distort your |
| anger is. Anger is not wrong in any way. | | | | thoughts, and so it begins a vicious |
| Yes, I believe we can transcend it, but | | | | cycle. To stop fresh anger, many anger |
| to make ourselves wrong for being angry | | | | management resources recommend replacing |
| will only hurt us more. | | | | these angry thoughts with positive |
| What is anger | | | | thoughts "It's not that bad," or "calm |
| Anger is a protection system - it allows | | | | down". I personally found it hard to |
| others, and us, to know when something | | | | switch thoughts when you are seeing red. |
| is wrong. This is especially true in | | | | I suggest taking a page from meditation |
| older times - if physical action is | | | | and clearing the mind. When you clear |
| needed, anger is what lets us fight if | | | | the mind you stop the thoughts, and the |
| we have to, for our own protection. This | | | | anger dies soon afterwards with nothing |
| is also the reason why anger sometimes | | | | to feed it. |
| gives us a feeling of power - and this | | | | The fastest way to stop the thoughts is |
| is why it is so addictive. | | | | to watch your breath. This is also a |
| But in this day and age, reacting with | | | | meditation technique. Feel the breath. |
| aggression, violence, or shouting is | | | | What does it feel like as the air passes |
| uncalled for. It is often a sign of | | | | through your nose? What does it feel |
| emotional weakness and immaturity. | | | | like as it goes into your lungs, and as |
| (Although sometimes you have to tell | | | | it comes back up? By occupying your mind |
| someone to back off.) | | | | in such a way, it cannot think any angry |
| Most people know that reacting without | | | | thoughts - it cannot do more than two |
| emotional control is weak, and so they | | | | things at once. |
| try to keep their cool. They do in the | | | | Great Resources |
| wrong way, however, and they end up | | | | Of course, these are just very basic |
| repressing their anger - which leads to | | | | overviews on anger management. There are |
| all the ills we mentioned above. | | | | some great resources, but it can be a |
| Anger management resources are vital in | | | | while to sift through the rubbish. |
| differentiating between the right and | | | | Here are some of the works that I |
| wrong ways in controlling anger: You | | | | recommend: |
| could lose more than just your mental | | | | A New Earth or The Power of Now by |
| health. | | | | Eckhart Tolle: His spiritual works don't |
| To make things easier, I'll | | | | cover just anger but every thing that |
| differentiate between two types of | | | | could disturb your peace and happiness. |
| anger: Repressed, and "Fresh". They are | | | | The Australian Psychological Society has |
| dealt with in different ways. | | | | a strictly psychological approach: They |
| Repressed anger | | | | have a small free online guide. |
| For repressed anger, here's a quick | | | | I've taken the best of both spiritual |
| summary of how to release it: Let it all | | | | and psychological approaches (both used |
| hang out, but not on the person or event | | | | to overcome my own crippling anger), and |
| that makes you angry. Find somewhere you | | | | written a more comprehensive ebook for |
| can be alone. | | | | free anger management and sadness. |
| Then, simply give your anger a voice. | | | | Lastly, I'd like to congratulate you on |
| Scream out whatever has been tearing you | | | | taking steps, looking for anger |
| up - everything that you've wanted to | | | | management resources, and looking after |
| say. Scream until you become the scream. | | | | your mental health. A lot of people |
| This is the most important ingredient. | | | | don't even recognise that they have a |
| Take some safe physical action at the | | | | problem. As a result their mental health |
| same time. For people who like punching, | | | | deteriorates until it - or their lives |
| punch the pillow. For those who feel | | | | -hit rock bottom. |