Christenings - Gifts, Etiquette and History Explained

Whether you're planning a Christening yourself,gathering is likely to be invited to photograph the
attending a Christening, need a Christening gift orchild, family and Godparents at specific points
just want to find out a bit more about theduring the ceremony. Of course there can also be
options available to you then hopefully this articlephotographs before and after.
will help.The child will usually be dressed in a special
There are two types of ceremonies available;Christening outfit/gown or family heirloom
religious and non-religious. Irrespective of whichgarment. Women would be expected to dress
type is chosen, the common theme throughout issmartly - hats are not necessary, and for men,
love and surrounding the child with family andsuits or smart shirt and trousers. Ties are often
friends in order to celebrate the child's birth andnot a necessity, particularly for summer
life ahead.ceremonies though if you are the father or
Religious Ceremonies:Godfather, you would be expected to dress in a
A Christening is the child's first initiation into thesuit.
religious faith. At a Catholic Christening, theUsually following the ceremony a buffet or tea is
parents make their declarations, the baby isheld at the parent's house. The child will be shown
baptised with holy water, and a lit candleoff to all the family and friends, and Christening
representing Jesus as the light of the world, isgifts are generally presented to the child. After
given to the parents and Godparents. The priestthe buffet, the official cake may be cut, and at
may ask the parents to attend preparationthis point, some people choose to plant a tree or
classes to fully understand the significance of adedicate a plant which will grow with the child.
baptism. Catholic Christenings are often held as aRole of the Godparents:
separate service for one or more child, withoutThere are usually three Godparents - two the
hymns and lasts approximately 30 minutes.same sex as the child. The role of the Godparent
In a Church of England Christening, the Christeningcomes from the days when converts to the
takes place within the main Sunday church serviceearly Christian church were usually adults whose
and the baby is taken to the font, sprinkled withparents were not Christians. The Godparents role
holy water, and the Godparents and parentswas to provide a Christian mentor to help them
promise God they will bring the child up in thethrough life. People also link the role of the
Christian faith.Godparent with that of becoming 'legal guardian'
If you decide to go for a Christening, you need toshould the child ever be orphaned. However, this
speak to the vicar at your local church. They willwould need to be written into a will with the
explain the service, and may ask questionspermission of the Godparents themselves.
concerning your own faith, and that of theNon-religious participants usually engage a 'mentor'
godparents. You will then be able to book a date.who will watch over the child and steer them
Secular (Non-Religious) Ceremonies:through life with help, care and advice. Generally
There are a range of non-religious celebrations toGodparents are chosen for their own Christian
choose from including a Baby-Naming Ceremony,beliefs but also because they are very close
Welcoming or Thanksgiving. These options arefriends of the parents, or family members.
free of any commitment to the Christian faith. AGodparents or guardians should be people who
British Humanist Association ceremony can takeare going to be around to offer support for the
place anywhere you like. A trained, licensedchild if needed.
celebrant will help you to create a unique andChristening Gifts:
personal occasion. They can provide templates forMany people prefer a traditional gift idea for a
ceremonies that you can adapt for your ownChristening such as pewter, silver or china; these
situation, and they can suggest readings, poetryare great gifts for the child to treasure. Another
or music. You can include contributions fromnice idea is to provide a photo album or keepsake
family/friends, and finish it all off with a tea orbox to store precious memories of the child's
buffet. These ceremonies last on average 20special day. For religious ceremonies it is common
minutes.for a silver cross and chain or a bible to be
Christenings are generally held within the first yearpresented to the child. Personalised gifts also
of a baby's life, although some parents wait untilmake very nice ideas for this occasion, for
the child is a little older.example a framed name print, or a personalised
Generally, photography is welcome during all typesChristening plate or mug, or perhaps an engraved
of ceremonies but it may be worth checking withtankard or cufflinks for a boy.
the person presiding first as the congregation or