| You know you're only hurting yourself by | | | | You can paint, write a blog, surf the |
| being angry and yet you can't stop the | | | | Internet, or do any other thing to distract |
| feeling from boiling inside you. What do you | | | | your mind from what's causing you trouble. |
| do? Try anger management. Yes, you can do | | | | |
| anger management even if it feels like a bomb | | | | Once you've calm down, deal with your anger |
| is about to explode from deep inside you. | | | | that's still embedded inside your system by |
| | | | expressing it in a controlled, deliberate |
| First, whatever it is that's causing you to | | | | manner either to the person who caused you to |
| feel the urge to smash the face of someone, | | | | feel angry or to a family member, friend, |
| no matter how intense that feeling is, | | | | counselor, or any person you trust. |
| freeze! Distract your mind from what's | | | | |
| bugging you by verbally counting numbers, | | | | Now that you're in control of your emotions, |
| from one to 10 to 100 or to a thousand or | | | | you'll have the facility to avoid saying |
| .... No, you won't reach the millionth count | | | | hurtful things that would only aggravate the |
| because by the time you get tired of | | | | conflict and your anger, which you would |
| counting, your anger would have subsided. | | | | later regret having done. If you're not sure |
| | | | how you can best confront the source of your |
| If you feel silly counting numbers, do | | | | anger, try to write a script of what you plan |
| something physically strenuous like going for | | | | to say to that person. Remember: Stick to |
| a brisk walk or jog. You can go to the | | | | issues and don't get personal. |
| swimming pool and cool down. You can go to | | | | |
| the gym to exercise. Physical activity | | | | Try not to hold a grudge against any person. |
| provides a channel for your strong emotions | | | | Try to forgive. Bear in mind that it's |
| to run through. | | | | unrealistic to expect someone to do and act |
| | | | as you please. |
| If sweating it out isn't exactly your cup of | | | | |
| tea, you can still manage your anger by | | | | Try to be humorous or witty when talking to |
| simply calming and soothing yourself. Lock | | | | an offending person. The smiles and laughter |
| yourself in your room, turn off or dim the | | | | you would cause could release the tensions. |
| lights, sit down and meditate. If you know | | | | |
| yoga, this is the best time to practice it. | | | | Don't be sarcastic. Sarcasm may sound witty |
| | | | to you but it will not sound funny at all to |
| If you don't know yoga, then just take slow, | | | | the person listening to you. This could only |
| deep breaths. Visualize a comforting scene - | | | | inflame the situation. |
| a serene forest or lake or park with just you | | | | |
| and nature all around. Repeat a calming | | | | If you have the time and the patience, write |
| phrase or word to yourself like "calm down" | | | | on your blog or diary the situation that |
| or "cool down." | | | | caused you to feel angry. Monitor your |
| | | | response to every situation. |
| You can also listen to music - whatever you | | | | |
| like but preferably gentle, meditative music | | | | You see, it's not that hard to manage your |
| to ease the burning sensation in your mind. | | | | anger. |
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