| Anger is a tool. Anger is an emotional response to | | | | Remind yourself - anger is an emotion like any |
| signal when things go against our ideals of how | | | | other. Like fear, love, delight, grief. But you can |
| people could be and how the world functions. You | | | | learn how to express your anger in a constructive |
| can't see appalling things happen and be immune | | | | way. By learning how to channel your anger, you |
| to the feelings of anger that will emerge - it's a | | | | not only stay open hearted and loving, you also |
| useful emotion. | | | | teach others how to manage their own anger. |
| It's how you react to those situations that mark | | | | Try something right now. Think back to the last |
| you out as someone who understands anger and | | | | person you felt really angry with. Take a moment |
| knows the consequences of letting it get out of | | | | to remember what made you so mad. |
| control. After all, allowing your response to | | | | Now imagine yourself in their shoes. Try to put in |
| become physical, so that you damage someone in | | | | words what you remember them saying and why |
| the process of expressing your anger, shows no | | | | they said the things they did, or did the things |
| respect either for your own ability to live from | | | | that you believed started off the row. And now |
| your heart, or for the wellbeing of the person | | | | imagine yourself back in that situation, but this |
| who is on the receiving end of it. | | | | time saying that because of what has been said |
| Violence and anger is not the same thing and they | | | | or done, you feel angry. Own the anger. No |
| do not go hand in hand. | | | | blame, no judgments. No-one can make you |
| Remember the last time you had a blazing row | | | | angry - it's your emotional response and you can |
| with someone? Remember how you didn't hear | | | | learn to choose how to respond in the future. |
| what the other person was saying - you didn't | | | | Isn't it easier to say that you're angry in a calm |
| want to hear and you sure as heck didn't think | | | | and loving way? Isn't it more likely that, had you |
| they might be right. You wanted to punish them. | | | | used love to deal with the situation, you might |
| You wanted to put up barriers and withhold | | | | have connected and found a healthy, loving way |
| friendship and block out what they were saying. | | | | to resolve the problem? |
| Remember that we all have is the right to say | | | | Yes it's a challenge. But you have such power and |
| how we feel. We all need to be heard, our | | | | inner strength in you that the further you go |
| feelings acknowledged, and to be understood. If | | | | along that journey, you will eventually meet it. |
| you shout and yell, what chance is there to | | | | Believe that you will. |
| resolve anything? | | | | |