| Much of the work done in paid anger | | | | something, then hit something "safe". The key |
| management sessions can be replicated alone - | | | | is to do it safely - hit a pillow, hit your |
| all you need is to know what to do. This free | | | | mattress. Make sure nobody is hurt. Sometimes |
| article will reveal the techniques that they | | | | your body wants to twist something. Grab a |
| use. | | | | towel in that case, and begin twisting it. |
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| I want to save you the costs of anger | | | | Once you have done this a few times (and the |
| management. I have been to anger management | | | | first time you do anger management, you're |
| counselling before, and I highly suggest you | | | | almost guaranteed to feel self conscious), |
| try these techniques that were taught there | | | | the anger will be released. What often comes |
| before shelling out to go a session. | | | | after is sadness and crying - these emotions |
| | | | are opposite sides of the same coin. |
| While I am not discounting counsellors, who | | | | |
| can be wonderful, a lot of the work can be | | | | Fresh anger |
| done alone, saving you a lot of money. | | | | |
| | | | The second type of anger is "fresh" anger. |
| What is anger | | | | Dealing with fresh anger is very different. |
| | | | You shouldn't repress it, but you shouldn't |
| First of all, we have to understand what | | | | let it all hang out either - it can be very |
| anger is. Anger served us back in older times | | | | inappropriate. |
| as a protection device. When we were under | | | | |
| attack, anger energised us to fight back. But | | | | The best thing to do is to clear your mind. |
| in modern times, physical violence and indeed | | | | Take some time out, if possible, and remove |
| even shouting is frowned upon and will cost | | | | yourself from the situation. Why? You have to |
| you a lot. There might be legal | | | | stop your thoughts from churning. |
| repercussions, you might lose your job, your | | | | |
| lover, the support of your family. | | | | Your thoughts start the anger. These can be |
| | | | anything from "How can he do that?!" to "I |
| However, this does not mean that anger is | | | | can't believe this is happening!" And so the |
| wrong. While anger is bad for you, and can be | | | | anger rises. As the anger rises, it affects |
| transcended totally, you have to realise that | | | | the thoughts in return, making the thoughts |
| anger is only "bad" if expressed unhealthily. | | | | darker and even more distorted. |
| The key is to know what is healthy and what | | | | |
| isn't. | | | | Clearing your mind cuts off this vicious |
| | | | cycle at the source, and the best way to do |
| For convenience, I'll differentiate between | | | | so is to feel. Feeling stops your thought - |
| the two types: repressed anger and fresh | | | | it distracts your mind. |
| anger. | | | | |
| | | | What do I mean by feel? Feel everything |
| Repressed anger | | | | directly, not through the filter of your |
| | | | thoughts. What does the air feel like as it |
| As mentioned, many people feel that anger is | | | | goes through your nose into your lungs? What |
| wrong, and so they end up repressing it. | | | | does your shirt feel like on your skin? |
| Repressed anger lives underneath your skin. | | | | |
| They can cause to explode at any moment. To | | | | Without thoughts to feed your emotions, the |
| deal with such anger, you have to let it all | | | | anger also begins to die down, and slowly it |
| out - but in a healthy way. | | | | disappears. |
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| Screaming is the most important part of anger | | | | The issue of anger is more complex than can |
| release. You have to give your anger a voice. | | | | be discussed in a single article. For a more |
| Whatever you are angry about, you have to | | | | in-depth discussion, please get the free |
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| of obscenities, do it! | | | | fresh anger, and the beginning of freedom |
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| Together with the screaming, your body might | | | | provides free information on overcoming |
| want to do something. If it wants to hit | | | | barriers to personal growth. |