| Much of the work done in paid anger | | | | to do it safely - hit a pillow, hit your mattress. |
| management sessions can be replicated alone - all | | | | Make sure nobody is hurt. Sometimes your body |
| you need is to know what to do. This free article | | | | wants to twist something. Grab a towel in that |
| will reveal the techniques that they use. | | | | case, and begin twisting it. |
| I want to save you the costs of anger | | | | Once you have done this a few times (and the |
| management. I have been to anger management | | | | first time you do anger management, you're |
| counselling before, and I highly suggest you try | | | | almost guaranteed to feel self conscious), the |
| these techniques that were taught there before | | | | anger will be released. What often comes after is |
| shelling out to go a session. | | | | sadness and crying - these emotions are opposite |
| While I am not discounting counsellors, who can | | | | sides of the same coin. |
| be wonderful, a lot of the work can be done | | | | Fresh anger |
| alone, saving you a lot of money. | | | | The second type of anger is "fresh" anger. Dealing |
| What is anger | | | | with fresh anger is very different. You shouldn't |
| First of all, we have to understand what anger is. | | | | repress it, but you shouldn't let it all hang out |
| Anger served us back in older times as a | | | | either - it can be very inappropriate. |
| protection device. When we were under attack, | | | | The best thing to do is to clear your mind. Take |
| anger energised us to fight back. But in modern | | | | some time out, if possible, and remove yourself |
| times, physical violence and indeed even shouting | | | | from the situation. Why? You have to stop your |
| is frowned upon and will cost you a lot. There | | | | thoughts from churning. |
| might be legal repercussions, you might lose your | | | | Your thoughts start the anger. These can be |
| job, your lover, the support of your family. | | | | anything from "How can he do that?!" to "I can't |
| However, this does not mean that anger is | | | | believe this is happening!" And so the anger rises. |
| wrong. While anger is bad for you, and can be | | | | As the anger rises, it affects the thoughts in |
| transcended totally, you have to realise that | | | | return, making the thoughts darker and even |
| anger is only "bad" if expressed unhealthily. The | | | | more distorted. |
| key is to know what is healthy and what isn't. | | | | Clearing your mind cuts off this vicious cycle at |
| For convenience, I'll differentiate between the two | | | | the source, and the best way to do so is to feel. |
| types: repressed anger and fresh anger. | | | | Feeling stops your thought - it distracts your mind. |
| Repressed anger | | | | What do I mean by feel? Feel everything directly, |
| As mentioned, many people feel that anger is | | | | not through the filter of your thoughts. What |
| wrong, and so they end up repressing it. | | | | does the air feel like as it goes through your nose |
| Repressed anger lives underneath your skin. They | | | | into your lungs? What does your shirt feel like on |
| can cause to explode at any moment. To deal | | | | your skin? |
| with such anger, you have to let it all out - but in | | | | Without thoughts to feed your emotions, the |
| a healthy way. | | | | anger also begins to die down, and slowly it |
| Screaming is the most important part of anger | | | | disappears. |
| release. You have to give your anger a voice. | | | | The issue of anger is more complex than can be |
| Whatever you are angry about, you have to | | | | discussed in a single article. For a more in-depth |
| shout it out. So, find a place where you can be | | | | discussion, please get the free ebook (I don't |
| alone, or where no one can hear you, and shout it | | | | even want your email) from my website. It |
| all out. Even if it is just a string of obscenities, do | | | | covers all negative emotions, including free anger |
| it! | | | | management: old anger, fresh anger, and the |
| Together with the screaming, your body might | | | | beginning of freedom from negativity altogether. |
| want to do something. If it wants to hit | | | | The website also provides free information on |
| something, then hit something "safe". The key is | | | | overcoming barriers to personal growth. |