| Are your emotional reactions automatic or on | | | | |
| purpose? | | | | Then you will be able to quickly analyze how |
| | | | you would prefer to react and do so. |
| Are you frustrated with how you continue to | | | | |
| react the same way every time a specific | | | | This can take time, as your habitual |
| situation or feeling comes up? | | | | reactions will want to slip in as they always |
| | | | have. |
| Have you desired less stress and anxiety in | | | | |
| your life, and more pleasure and happiness? | | | | With persistence and determination you can |
| | | | take command of your reactions. |
| If you had a choice, would you choose anger, | | | | |
| resentment, fear, worry, and jealousy to be a | | | | VALUES AND DESIRED LIFE |
| consistent part of your life? | | | | |
| | | | Look at your personal values when deciding |
| More likely, I think you want more happiness, | | | | how you would rather react. |
| joy, fulfillment, understanding, and love to | | | | |
| be present. | | | | What reaction would better serve the values |
| | | | you want to live by? |
| Well, you can choose, you can change yourself | | | | |
| one small step at a time in all areas of your | | | | How would you rather behave in certain |
| life if you choose to. | | | | situations? |
| | | | |
| Your personal growth is up to you; you can | | | | Could you reduce negative effects and |
| cease allowing your automatic reactions to | | | | increase the more desirable? |
| guide your life. | | | | |
| | | | If your present reaction is one of anger, is |
| You can react to your feelings any way that | | | | anger what you want in your life, or would |
| you want? | | | | there be another reaction more in line with |
| | | | how you want to live your life? |
| CHANGING HOW YOU REACT TO A FEELING | | | | |
| | | | You can change much of what your experience |
| Just because you have reacted in a certain | | | | in life by changing your perceptions |
| way does not mean you must continue to do so. | | | | |
| | | | THIS IS CHANGE |
| You can actually change your reaction any | | | | |
| time you choose. | | | | You can eliminate the experience and results |
| | | | of your anger if you choose not to allow |
| We all react to the specific feelings that | | | | anger to be a part of your reaction in a |
| come up when something occurs. And how we | | | | given situation. |
| react is based on how we perceive the | | | | |
| occurrence. | | | | Getting command of your thinking and choosing |
| | | | to direct it how you want, will gradually |
| If you can change the way you perceive | | | | bring more of what you want into your life. |
| something, you change your reaction to it. | | | | |
| And changing your reaction will alter the | | | | You will open yourself to a new life with |
| outcome of your feelings and actions. | | | | every reaction you alter to more align with |
| | | | how you desire to be. |
| NOTICE, ASSESS AND CHANGE | | | | |
| | | | You don't need to continuously be subject to |
| The first thing is to just notice how you are | | | | undesirable automatic reactions that are not |
| reacting to a given feeling. | | | | beneficial to you. |
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| This may seem difficult at first, as most | | | | Start noticing your reactions, and see them |
| likely you are accustomed to living on | | | | as something that can be changed. |
| auto-pilot, allowing whatever thoughts come | | | | |
| up, to rule the moment. | | | | Determine what you DO want in your life. |
| | | | |
| You can start by thinking about your reaction | | | | Search within yourself for what you DO want |
| after the fact, then gradually as you become | | | | your life to include. |
| more aware of this, you will notice while you | | | | |
| are reacting. | | | | What are your values, your purpose, and your |
| | | | mission? |
| After awhile, as you become more aware, you | | | | |
| will find that you can easily notice your | | | | "Our reactions to our feelings are our |
| reactions right as they are coming up. | | | | passport to rebirth. |