| Are your emotional reactions automatic or on | | | | right as they are coming up. |
| purpose? | | | | Then you will be able to quickly analyze how you |
| Are you frustrated with how you continue to | | | | would prefer to react and do so. |
| react the same way every time a specific | | | | This can take time, as your habitual reactions will |
| situation or feeling comes up? | | | | want to slip in as they always have. |
| Have you desired less stress and anxiety in your | | | | With persistence and determination you can take |
| life, and more pleasure and happiness? | | | | command of your reactions. |
| If you had a choice, would you choose anger, | | | | VALUES AND DESIRED LIFE |
| resentment, fear, worry, and jealousy to be a | | | | Look at your personal values when deciding how |
| consistent part of your life? | | | | you would rather react. |
| More likely, I think you want more happiness, joy, | | | | What reaction would better serve the values you |
| fulfillment, understanding, and love to be present. | | | | want to live by? |
| Well, you can choose, you can change yourself | | | | How would you rather behave in certain |
| one small step at a time in all areas of your life if | | | | situations? |
| you choose to. | | | | Could you reduce negative effects and increase |
| Your personal growth is up to you; you can cease | | | | the more desirable? |
| allowing your automatic reactions to guide your | | | | If your present reaction is one of anger, is anger |
| life. | | | | what you want in your life, or would there be |
| You can react to your feelings any way that you | | | | another reaction more in line with how you want |
| want? | | | | to live your life? |
| CHANGING HOW YOU REACT TO A FEELING | | | | You can change much of what your experience in |
| Just because you have reacted in a certain way | | | | life by changing your perceptions |
| does not mean you must continue to do so. | | | | THIS IS CHANGE |
| You can actually change your reaction any time | | | | You can eliminate the experience and results of |
| you choose. | | | | your anger if you choose not to allow anger to |
| We all react to the specific feelings that come up | | | | be a part of your reaction in a given situation. |
| when something occurs. And how we react is | | | | Getting command of your thinking and choosing |
| based on how we perceive the occurrence. | | | | to direct it how you want, will gradually bring |
| If you can change the way you perceive | | | | more of what you want into your life. |
| something, you change your reaction to it. And | | | | You will open yourself to a new life with every |
| changing your reaction will alter the outcome of | | | | reaction you alter to more align with how you |
| your feelings and actions. | | | | desire to be. |
| NOTICE, ASSESS AND CHANGE | | | | You don't need to continuously be subject to |
| The first thing is to just notice how you are | | | | undesirable automatic reactions that are not |
| reacting to a given feeling. | | | | beneficial to you. |
| This may seem difficult at first, as most likely you | | | | Start noticing your reactions, and see them as |
| are accustomed to living on auto-pilot, allowing | | | | something that can be changed. |
| whatever thoughts come up, to rule the moment. | | | | Determine what you DO want in your life. |
| You can start by thinking about your reaction | | | | Search within yourself for what you DO want |
| after the fact, then gradually as you become | | | | your life to include. |
| more aware of this, you will notice while you are | | | | What are your values, your purpose, and your |
| reacting. | | | | mission? |
| After awhile, as you become more aware, you | | | | "Our reactions to our feelings are our passport to |
| will find that you can easily notice your reactions | | | | rebirth. |