| These days, anger management is a hot
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| | they will use it during an anger driven
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| topic among educators. More and more, we
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| | situation.
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| see angry students committing acts of
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| | 5. Teach them deep breathing - During an
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| violence against classmates. Educating
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| | angry episode, our breathing changes to
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| the public on the topic of anger
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| | quick short breathes. This breathing
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| management is the best way to help
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| | causes a cascade of physiological changes
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| children manage their anger in an
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| | in our body that creates anger. By
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| appropriate way.
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| | learning to controlled, deep breathing,
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| What is anger?
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| | children can short circuit the angry
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| Angry feelings are normal emotional
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| | response. Teach your child to inhale to a
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| reactions to daily stresses in our lives
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| | 5 counts, then hold for a 2 counts, and
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| that range from irritated to enraged.
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| | exhale for a 5 counts. For young kids, I
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| It's natural for children to experience
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| | call this breathing exercise "Dragon's
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| emotions of anger but it's critical to
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| | breath". Have them pretend that they are
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| teach them proper coping mechanisms so
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| | breathing out fire with the exhale and
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| that they do not express these feelings
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| | that the fire is the anger leaving the
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| in an uncontrollable manner.
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| | body.
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| The goal as a parent is not to completely
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| | 6. Identify anger triggers - Most
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| stop the angry emotion since they are
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| | children respond to specific triggers
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| hardwired into our brain. The goal is to
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| | that cause anger. Ask your child "What
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| teach the children to develop
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| | situations make you angry?" The answer
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| self-control and make appropriate choices
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| | will vary from frustrations over homework
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| regarding how to handle these feelings.
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| | to bullying at school. Then, talk about
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| Strategies for teach children to handling
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| | solutions that are more appropriate to
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| anger appropriately
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| | the problem situation. You can even
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| 1. Lead by example - Research shows that
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| | rehearse the scenario by role-playing.
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| children model their parents so if the
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| | 7. Watch for the warning signs - When
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| parent blows up in fits of rage in front
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| | anger starts to arise, they will show
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| of a child. The child will learn to use
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| | signs. Tell your child that it's
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| anger as a coping mechanism for their
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| | important to listen to the warning signs.
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| situations in their lives.
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| | Ask your child what the specific warning
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| 2. Teach empathy and tolerance - Empathy
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| | signs that show that they are getting
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| is the ability to walk a mile in someone
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| | upset. Some examples of signs could be
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| else's shoes. Children that understand
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| | talking louder, heart pounding, face
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| the feelings of others deal better with
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| | getting red, clenching fists, or
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| disagreements with other children.
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| | breathing faster. Once you identify the
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| 3. Remain calm - Yelling at angry
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| | signs, start pointing them out when they
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| children to control themselves will only
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| | show signs of getting upset. For example,
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| increase the intensity of the outburst.
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| | "I see your breathing fast" "Looks like
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| Remaining calm yourself will assist the
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| | you are getting anger" "You're clenching
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| child caught by the anger bee.
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| | your fist. Are you getting upset." This
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| 4. Use positive self-talk - Teach
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| | self-awareness will snap the child back
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| children to stay in control by saying
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| | into reality and help them manage the
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| affirmations. Affirmations are simple
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| | anger early - before it's out of control.
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| positive messages that the child can say
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| | The secret to successful anger management
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| to themselves in stressful situations.
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| | is to intervene early. Most children use
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| For example, here's a few that a child
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| | anger because it is their only coping
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| could learn: "Stop and calm down", "Take
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| | mechanism for daily stress. By
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| a deep breath", "Stay in control", or "I
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| | identifying problem situations and
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| can handle this". Suggest a few to your
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| | providing them new techniques for coping,
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| child and practice it with them. The more
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| | you will keep the anger bee from grabbing
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| you practice it with them the more likely
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| | hold of your child.
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