| Parents want what is best for their
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| | be. Then reflect on whether these
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| children. They want their children to be
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| | expectations are realistic, too
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| happy, smart, and successful. Educational
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| | demanding, or not demanding enough.2.
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| level and school performance serves as
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| | Practice acceptance. Know your child and
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| the measuring stick. Parents believe if
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| | adjust your expectations. For example,
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| a student excels in school, s/he will
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| | B's may be acceptable in reading because,
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| excel in life. Striking a balance
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| | as the parent, you know reading has not
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| between accepting a child's performance
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| | been easy for your child since first
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| and pushing a child to reach a higher
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| | grade.3. Make it a point to speak with
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| level can be very difficult. However,
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| | your kids regularly. Kids will open up
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| pushing too hard will impact your child
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| | when you least expect it, so always be
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| negatively.In my tenure as a psychologist
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| | ready for a conversation. Most often,
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| and coach, I have heard countless middle
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| | parents have the best conversations with
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| school students say: "What's wrong with
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| | their children in the car on the way to
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| a B, they expect me to make straight
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| | or from an event (ie soccer practice).
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| A's", "I hate being the example", "They
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| | Ask them two basic questions: 1)what do
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| just want me to get into an IV league
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| | you need from me, how can I support you
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| college- I'm only in 6th grade I don't
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| | in your school work? 2) do you feel I
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| want to think about college yet", "They
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| | put too much pressure on you? Most often
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| just want to brag to their friends". At
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| | they will give you honest feedback and
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| times, parents can lose sight of how hard
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| | tell you what they need.4. Pay attention.
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| they push their kids. In addition, they
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| | Notice any changes in your child's
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| can be negligent in realizing the
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| | behavior. Pay attention to eating and
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| negative impact pushing may have on their
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| | sleeping habits, the kinds of friends
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| child's self esteem. Pushing too hard
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| | they hang out with, as well as the
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| can be internalized as - You're not good
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| | consistency in their grades.5. Speak with
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| enough. This message can translate into
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| | your child's teacher(s) and/or counselor.
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| a number of different behaviors. For
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| | Always make it a point to speak with
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| example, I have worked with children who
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| | your child's teachers. I recommend a
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| have shut down and given up on academics
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| | check in phone call twice a year. Ask
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| completely because the pressure is too
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| | the teacher how you can be supportive to
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| great. In their minds, not trying and
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| | the academic process? Ask the teacher
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| being a failure is a lot better than
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| | how much help s/he expects for you to
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| trying and being a failure. I also have
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| | give your child on homeowork.
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| seen students resort to lieing and
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| | Furthermore, a good counselor is a
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| cheating just to make the grade. These
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| | parent's best resource. Counselors have
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| students know it is wrong to cheat or
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| | tools and tips to help you be a support
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| copy their friend's homework; however,
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| | system to your child.6. Tutor- Tutors can
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| the praise and parent satisfaction for
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| | work wonders with children. Tutoring is
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| bringing home a good report far outweighs
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| | not just for students who are behind. I
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| the guilt and consequences for getting
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| | have seen tutoring have a significant
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| caught.It is common knowledge that
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| | positive effect on very bright students.
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| children would rather stay in their
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| | Working with a tutor alleviates some of
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| comfort zones rather than take risks,
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| | the pressure, and as a result, bright
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| especially academically. It is important
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| | students shine even brighter.7. Relax and
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| for parents to set high standards for
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| | Know - that everything will work out.By
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| their children. So how can a parent
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| | taking a balanced and supportive stance
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| maintain a balance between setting "high
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| | in your child's academic life, you will
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| standards" and putting undue pressure on
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| | ensure that your child will grow and
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| their child?1. Self Reflect.a) Figure out
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| | learn successfully.Peggy Tsatsoulis, MA
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| the reasons why it is important for you
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| | CAGS - is a highly sought after
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| to push your child. Be honest and frank
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| | Professional Life Coach and Certified
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| with yourself. The reasons may not be
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| | Psychologist with over ten years of
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| pretty at times, but by accepting the
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| | experience. She has been dedicated to
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| ugly, you can let go and make changes.b)
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| | working with individuals to improve the
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| Determine where your child is
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| | quality of their lives, and her focus has
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| academically and where you want them to
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| | been on bringing out the best in others.
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