| Personal Development and Happiness: Releasing | | | | Often times you need to do this a few times. |
| Anger | | | | Pain comes in waves, and often times one such |
| In personal development, one of the main goals is | | | | exercise won't be enough to release all that |
| to achieve happiness. What often stands in the | | | | pent-up energy. |
| way are "negative" emotions that linger on. Most | | | | There are many causes of anger or sadness; bad |
| people have some of these emotions, either | | | | parenting, childhood bullies, and so on. Try to trace |
| repressed or lasting with no outlet. Some are low | | | | it back to the roots, understand it, and try to |
| level, some are strong. | | | | give it a voice. As you'll see below, this is vital, as |
| Recognising that you have this sadness or anger | | | | the vocal component is the most important. |
| bottled up inside you, or dealing with lower level | | | | Note: If it is something that you cannot handle, |
| emotions are articles that can be found on the | | | | please do not feel ashamed to seek out |
| Urban Monk website. I am focusing on letting out | | | | professional help. And avoid self-destruction; |
| anger on this article because I feel it is one of the | | | | numbing of the pain with alcohol, drugs, or other |
| worst. It is crippling; it colours everything you do | | | | risky behaviour. I went through a whole year of |
| in your life and is often linked with depression. | | | | this and paid for this behaviour physically and |
| Anger is crippling | | | | emotionally for nearly a year after. And I'm one |
| I used to suffer from massively pent-up | | | | of the luckier ones. |
| emotions; while I was often described as a teddy | | | | Once you have that, find a safe location. |
| bear guy, I had massively pent-up anger and to a | | | | Somewhere you can scream and act out your |
| lesser extent, sadness. When I blew up, I blew up. | | | | anger and sadness - either alone, or with an |
| I became verbally abusive and irrational - often | | | | understanding person. With each one of the |
| this would only be shown to, and therefore | | | | following options, remember you need to scream |
| unintentionally hurt, the people who love me the | | | | out - all the words you've always wanted to say |
| most and are the closest to me. This led to a | | | | - while you are doing it. Even if it's just a string of |
| deep depression that lasted for more then a year | | | | vulgarities, do it! |
| - and badly deteriorating physical health. | | | | Let it all out. You might feel weird and |
| So trust me; be honest with yourself, and find | | | | self-conscious doing this, it's normal. Don't give up. |
| out if you have anger issues. If you do, take | | | | Just do it over and over again until you feel that |
| steps to fix it - for yourself and those who love | | | | all your repressed anger is gone. You'll know when |
| you. | | | | this happens, instinctively. It might take weeks, it |
| Besides being a major step towards happiness, | | | | might take days, it's different for everyone. |
| there are other benefits to dropping all that | | | | The three steps |
| emotional weight from your shoulders. | | | | 1) Do this in a safe location. Kneel on your bed like |
| Self-esteem, confidence, and courage are other | | | | you're praying. Find a large pillow. Make a hammer |
| parts that develop as you deal with anger. | | | | fist with your hands. Not a boxing style fist, you |
| Understanding Anger and Sadness | | | | might your wrist. And pound the pillows, with all |
| The first step to dealing with it is to understand | | | | your might until you can't go any more. |
| anger. Anger is not "negative". It is simply an | | | | 2) Sometimes twisting is better. Find a towel, and |
| energy; an emotion. It serves as a protection | | | | twist it like you are trying to wring out every last |
| system. When you get angry, it is a sign that | | | | drop of water. |
| something or someone is infringing on you or your | | | | 3) Sometimes just screaming is good enough. Go |
| rights. | | | | somewhere abandoned, with some loud music put |
| It is not to be confused with blind rage; blind rage | | | | on maximum and scream with your whole body. |
| is when you start being abusive; when you start | | | | Become the yell. Yell until your whole body |
| being violent towards inanimate objects, or worse, | | | | trembles. |
| other people. That is not healthy. | | | | What's next? |
| I heard a great analogy once; emotions are like | | | | Usually what follows the release of anger is |
| vegetables. When they are fresh, they are fine, | | | | sadness. Read the next in this series of articles |
| when you hold it in for a long time, that's when | | | | for this at the Urban Monk website. You're on |
| they become toxic. They explode to the surface | | | | your way to Mastery! |
| and manifest themselves in unhealthy ways. It | | | | This article is for educational purposes only. It is |
| could also lead to cancer, stress, and several | | | | based on the author's research and own |
| other nasty conditions. | | | | experience; however you and you alone are |
| How to deal with Anger | | | | responsible for what you do with it. By reading |
| There are a few universal exercises for releasing | | | | this article you agree that he will assume no |
| anger across all the different sorts of | | | | liability or responsibility to any person or entity for |
| methodologies and therapies I've researched. I've | | | | any loss or damage related directly or indirectly to |
| captured the essence here. | | | | this article. |