| Personal Development and Happiness: Releasing | | | | researched. I've captured the essence here. |
| Anger | | | | |
| | | | Often times you need to do this a few times. |
| In personal development, one of the main | | | | Pain comes in waves, and often times one such |
| goals is to achieve happiness. What often | | | | exercise won't be enough to release all that |
| stands in the way are "negative" emotions | | | | pent-up energy. |
| that linger on. Most people have some of | | | | |
| these emotions, either repressed or lasting | | | | There are many causes of anger or sadness; |
| with no outlet. Some are low level, some are | | | | bad parenting, childhood bullies, and so on. |
| strong. | | | | Try to trace it back to the roots, understand |
| | | | it, and try to give it a voice. As you'll see |
| Recognising that you have this sadness or | | | | below, this is vital, as the vocal component |
| anger bottled up inside you, or dealing with | | | | is the most important. |
| lower level emotions are articles that can be | | | | |
| found on the Urban Monk website. I am | | | | Note: If it is something that you cannot |
| focusing on letting out anger on this article | | | | handle, please do not feel ashamed to seek |
| because I feel it is one of the worst. It is | | | | out professional help. And avoid |
| crippling; it colours everything you do in | | | | self-destruction; numbing of the pain with |
| your life and is often linked with | | | | alcohol, drugs, or other risky behaviour. I |
| depression. | | | | went through a whole year of this and paid |
| | | | for this behaviour physically and emotionally |
| Anger is crippling | | | | for nearly a year after. And I'm one of the |
| | | | luckier ones. |
| I used to suffer from massively pent-up | | | | |
| emotions; while I was often described as a | | | | Once you have that, find a safe location. |
| teddy bear guy, I had massively pent-up anger | | | | Somewhere you can scream and act out your |
| and to a lesser extent, sadness. When I blew | | | | anger and sadness - either alone, or with an |
| up, I blew up. I became verbally abusive and | | | | understanding person. With each one of the |
| irrational - often this would only be shown | | | | following options, remember you need to |
| to, and therefore unintentionally hurt, the | | | | scream out - all the words you've always |
| people who love me the most and are the | | | | wanted to say - while you are doing it. Even |
| closest to me. This led to a deep depression | | | | if it's just a string of vulgarities, do it! |
| that lasted for more then a year - and badly | | | | |
| deteriorating physical health. | | | | Let it all out. You might feel weird and |
| | | | self-conscious doing this, it's normal. Don't |
| So trust me; be honest with yourself, and | | | | give up. Just do it over and over again until |
| find out if you have anger issues. If you do, | | | | you feel that all your repressed anger is |
| take steps to fix it - for yourself and those | | | | gone. You'll know when this happens, |
| who love you. | | | | instinctively. It might take weeks, it might |
| | | | take days, it's different for everyone. |
| Besides being a major step towards happiness, | | | | |
| there are other benefits to dropping all that | | | | The three steps |
| emotional weight from your shoulders. | | | | |
| Self-esteem, confidence, and courage are | | | | 1) Do this in a safe location. Kneel on your |
| other parts that develop as you deal with | | | | bed like you're praying. Find a large pillow. |
| anger. | | | | Make a hammer fist with your hands. Not a |
| | | | boxing style fist, you might your wrist. And |
| Understanding Anger and Sadness | | | | pound the pillows, with all your might until |
| | | | you can't go any more. |
| The first step to dealing with it is to | | | | |
| understand anger. Anger is not "negative". It | | | | 2) Sometimes twisting is better. Find a |
| is simply an energy; an emotion. It serves as | | | | towel, and twist it like you are trying to |
| a protection system. When you get angry, it | | | | wring out every last drop of water. |
| is a sign that something or someone is | | | | |
| infringing on you or your rights. | | | | 3) Sometimes just screaming is good enough. |
| | | | Go somewhere abandoned, with some loud music |
| It is not to be confused with blind rage; | | | | put on maximum and scream with your whole |
| blind rage is when you start being abusive; | | | | body. Become the yell. Yell until your whole |
| when you start being violent towards | | | | body trembles. |
| inanimate objects, or worse, other people. | | | | |
| That is not healthy. | | | | What's next? |
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| I heard a great analogy once; emotions are | | | | Usually what follows the release of anger is |
| like vegetables. When they are fresh, they | | | | sadness. Read the next in this series of |
| are fine, when you hold it in for a long | | | | articles for this at the Urban Monk website. |
| time, that's when they become toxic. They | | | | You're on your way to Mastery! |
| explode to the surface and manifest | | | | |
| themselves in unhealthy ways. It could also | | | | This article is for educational purposes |
| lead to cancer, stress, and several other | | | | only. It is based on the author's research |
| nasty conditions. | | | | and own experience; however you and you alone |
| | | | are responsible for what you do with it. By |
| How to deal with Anger | | | | reading this article you agree that he will |
| | | | assume no liability or responsibility to any |
| There are a few universal exercises for | | | | person or entity for any loss or damage |
| releasing anger across all the different | | | | related directly or indirectly to this |
| sorts of methodologies and therapies I've | | | | article. |