How We Sabotage Ourselves And What To Do About It

Everyone wants to be beautiful, young, healthyToday we fear many external enemies. It is not
and fit. There is no end to the diets, workoutsso easy to realize, however, that the worst
and health plans. Yet the most important diet ofenemy we face is this anger that resides within,
all has been overlooked. This is a diet thatthe terror it causes us, and the ways in which this
releases stress, relaxes muscles, offers soundpoison dictates so much of our lives.
sleep, diminishes appetite, and makes you lookAnger has many faces. It appears in many forms
and feel younger; it brings you new friends, aand creates different consequences. Anger that is
happy work environment, good relationships, andovert and clear cut is the simplest to deal with
adds years to your life. This is the diet fromand understand. When we or someone we know
anger' one of the worst plagues facing our nation.is openly angry, we know what we are up against
Anger is a serious problem for one in every fiveand can directly address the cause.
Americans. Road rage, workplace violence, schoolMost anger lurks beneath the surface, however. It
shootings, domestic abuse and addiction are just aoften does not even come to our awareness and
few of its many outlets. The reason such a hugemanifests in endless, hidden ways - as depression,
proportion of our nation is on anti-depressants,anxiety, apathy, hopelessness, and in many, many
involved in alcohol, and drug addiction, overweight,other forms.
in broken relationships and involved in all kinds ofIt is crucial that we recognize anger for what it is,
destructive behavior, can be directly traced backrealize when it is appearing and notice the
to the effects of anger, particularly the hiddendevastation it creates. Then we have an
kind. It has also been well documented that angeropportunity to root out this underground stream
strongly affects physical health and is directlyfeeds our misery, and the misery we cause
related to heart attacks, blood pressure, back painothers. When anger is allowed to remain
and many other physical disorders. This is calledcamouflaged it holds us in its grip and easily
symptom substitution.erodes the entire quality of our lives.
We also turn our anger against ourselves in otherWhat To Do:
ways. We become depressed or experienceJust as we work out daily in the gym to
mood disorders, hopelessness, passive aggressivestrengthen muscles and attain flexibility, it is
behavior, promiscuity, domestic abuse and manynecessary to work out and strengthen the parts
other forms of general misery. Sometimes angerof ourselves that can recognize and release anger
converts itself into obsessive-compulsive disorderseasily. We must learn to give up the various
and individuals become unable to make decisionsforms of anger and replace them with a healthy
or choices about their lives.antidote. Some healthy antidotes to anger include:
Anger is ruthless in the course it takes, attackingletting go of blame, forgiveness, generosity,
and disrupting our body, minds and spirits. Asseeing the best in others, letting the other be
school and workplace shootings rise, the divorceright, (just for today), giving others the benefit of
rate climbs, people are on increasingthe doubt.
anti-depressants. Many are increasingly unable toChoose one antidote and work with it for an
deal with the stress of 9-11 and an everydayentire day. Then choose another. You will begin to
terrorist threat. It is clear that anger is a societalfeel so good, you won't want to go back to the
problem, which is only growing worse. It is timeold ways. As we daily eliminate the toxicity anger
we paid attention to the #1 terrorist we face: theprovides to our systems, not only will the results
anger we live with every day.be reflected in our mental and emotional
At the present time many of individuals in ourwell-being, but in our environment and physical
society are dependent upon medication of allhealth as well. Eventually it will become impossible
kinds. Anti-depressants, anti-anxiety drugs, weightfor anger to maintain the hold it once had upon
loss supplements, low blood pressure medication,them.
blood thinners and anti-bionics of many kinds areAll teachings encourage us to be forgiving, but
taken to ease the many symptoms ofthere is little actual instruction on how to
unhappiness, unbalance and disease we sufferaccomplish this. Each of the antidotes listed above
from. On the face of it the symptoms seem towill help you along the way. Anger is the great
differ from one another. If we look a little deeper,impediment to forgiveness. When anger is rooted
however, we can see that beneath the variousout, love and forgiveness arise naturally. Our lives
forms of distress that appear, anger is quietlyand the lives of those around us then become
smoldering.hallowed and become all they are meant to be.