Living Without Your Anger

Up until several years ago, I was a championmy future. I had to ask myself for every little
'angry person', in that just about everything in mything (whether anger was involved or not - to
life made me angry. If someone was unkind, ordevelop the habit) "What kind of future do you
thoughtless, or selfish, or anything I didn't like, Iwant to create?"
got angry. And not just upset, but all-out, smokeEventually, the anger habit was broken, and a
rolling out of my ears, ANGRY!new habit took its place. Another thing that really
But the principles that I was learning led me tohelped with this was long periods of focusing on
realize that every time I got angry, whether Ithe opposite of anger, happiness. Every day for
expressed it or not, I was directing spiritual powerabout 6-8 weeks, I sat down to 2 or 3 sessions
to create future experiences that would mimic orof 30-60 minutes each and did nothing but focus
resonate with that anger. I knew that I had aon love, happiness, harmony, and such. I knew
problem to deal with.that I had to get used to something other than
I understand where the philosophy of 'living withanger, so I trained my mind and emotions to
your anger' comes from, as well as the philosophyexpress something else. Guess what, it worked.
of express it to get rid of it. But at least in myBut what was even better, was that it did a lot
case, everything I expressed got easier tomore for me than simply giving me control over
express, and it just grew and grew. I had tomy anger. All of that time focusing on love,
eliminate it completely.happiness, and harmony had directed Power to
And here's the major thing that helped with that.create some wonderful experiences in my life.
Anger is the feeling that things, situations, andFor the first time ever, everything around me
people should be something they are not. Anger isseemed to go right. Every person I talked to
judgment. If you take away the judgment, youseemed like they enjoyed my company and
eliminate the source of the anger. Actually, this iswanted to help me in the issues I was dealing
one lesson learned from the Buddhists. If you canwith at the time. I had created so much 'good
eliminate your 'attachment' to the world andluck' in the process of focusing on happiness and
conditions, you can reach 'enlightenment'.love that I started wondering what was wrong.
I don't get angry anymore. Frustrated sometimes,And guess what that did? Yep, things started to
but I remind myself that the world is as it is, andgo wrong again. But I quickly realized what was
I won't help anything by getting angry, upset, orhappening and started keeping my focus on what
frustrated.was right, and what I wanted to be right. I know
The transformation in me was like thenow, beyond any shadow of a doubt, that my
transformation of a lifelong smoker who gotthoughts and feelings control my reality. And that
scared out of the habit (yes, anger is a habit) byany habit, even anger, can be conquered.
the reality of the disease (cancer in the case ofNow, every morning after I get out of bed, I
the smoker). There's a simple truth; your actionsspend about 20 minutes centering myself and
(and thoughts and feelings) today will create yourfinding the joy and happiness within. People tell me
reality tomorrow.that I have incredible patience. My response is
The transformation wasn't easy, but it did happen.usually, "What good would it do for me to get
I had to constantly remind myself that everythingupset?
I thought and felt was directing Power to create